Find out who is chatting
Mention something in the profile. “What was the last gig you went to? Am I chatting with both of you?” If one partner replies, ask if the three of you can talk before meeting.
Say what you want
You can suggest coffee, arrange your own journey home or wait before sharing a personal photo. Your wishes count just as much as theirs.
If the plan changes
If one partner cancels, decide whether you still want to meet. “I’d like to wait until all three of us can come” is a complete answer. You can also decline a second date.